But is a little jealousy all that bad? I absolutely positively do not think so. I personally think that when I get a little jealous it only reminds me how much I am still crazy in love with my beau. But jealousy become a damnation to yourself, your partner and your relationship when it starts to control your mind and takes over your independent thinking ability.
When you realize that you are becoming extremely jealous, it means that there is a problem in your love life and you need to take drastic measures to correct it before it escalates. I know we sometimes suspect some "anky panky" with our spouse and instead of asking about it for clarification we start our little investigation. We search phones, wallets, secretly listen in on conversations, we even sometimes follow our partners our hire private investigators to record his/her activities.
All of this can be avoided sometimes with good communication and honesty. If you are the one suspicious of your partner let him know and talk about the reasons for your suspicions. If your partner is suspicious of you then as soon as you realize open up to your partner. I know guys have a way to get a kick out of tagging us along instead of just telling us the truth.
But I do hope that after you confront your partner he is truthful and you try to trust his words but if not then that's a different story all by it self.
Talk soon and do feel free to share your tips with us.
Nikx
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This is so damn true. But I can't help it. I just can't help it. He doesn't tell me anything so i have to search. Once i followed him in my friends car and realize that he was cheating on me with someone i know and that girl knew that we are married..
So I waited on her once by her job and i bust her ass and told her to leave my man then i went home and almost poor some ensom salt down his throat. and to this day he denied it.
So honey the advise is good but some of these men they will never tell the truth you just have to act on your woman instincts.
If you're feeling jealous, the best thing, as you say, is to discuss it calmly with your partner. There may or may not be grounds for your suspicions. But it's best to get it out of your head and on the plate.
DWL @Slim but true.
I am jealous, when i am in love, because i do not want to share my man love with anyone else.
I get more so jealous when things are suspicious and draw me to think otherwise.When you so confront you partner at times about being jealous,it doesnt help it gets more crazy cause then they start guarding their possessions more, Like not wanting you to answer their phones etc.
Some men when you express your concern about your suspicion, they get all defensive and tell you some story that don't even add up and only leaves you more suspicious than before.
I am jealous but don't get jealous for no reason his actions towards other women in and out of my presence is what bothers me..
if it looks funny or sound funny i am gonna front...
Hi, when I have found myself feeling a little jealous I ask myself what am I afraid of losing. What I have learned in life is that it is hard to keep someone in your heart that doesn't want to be there.
So...instead I have a long talk with myself and hopefully with the other person to determine where the heart is in the relationship. No heart, no relationship. Jealousy maybe a warning sign for you to look somewhere else because you may not be communicating with each other.
Thant is so true WorkingHard. There has to be some heart from both paties in your relationship or it will not work.
Thanks for stopping by, it's good to hear the men's views now and then.
Suspicion do bring on jealousy Anxious and i do think it is okay to feel a little jealous sometimes. But as u said don't get jealous for no reason, i think that will make u paranoid.
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