You most times feel unappreciated because you think that your putting in more than you are getting. At some point in any relationship we all do feel that way and I must say it is not a good feeling. I am a great believer in good communication and i believe that as soon as a problem surfaces in your relationship you should communicate it to your partner before it escalates.
Escalates? Yes, sometimes it's the tiniest things that lead to a big gap in the relationship and as such the bedroom activities become dull and dry. Feeling unloved and unappreciated is not a feeling that one should live with and I do advice every individual, man or woman to not settle for less than you deserve.
However, feelings could be wrong or misleading so please, please, please communicate and be honest with your partner and remember do not fight fire with fire, it pays to be humble sometimes.
Keep on showing the love, care and appreciation there is a 90% chance it will return to you.
Bless up Scoopers!
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I think that women sometimes are too emotional and basically, yáll think too much.. Sometimes we men just need a break or some breathing space. We got issues too. But I guess we gotta do us and do yáll ladies right too.
Men, we never get to win no matter how nice we are. But am glad you say do not fight fire with fire, just hope my shorty would take that advise.
Jarett, lets not take that root about "women being too emotional" i must say we do have some very emotional men out there too.
I can relate to feeling like i am loving more as well as giving someone the impression that they are loving me more. I think it has to do with each ones personality and their views on how a relationship should operate.
Me giving the impression that you love me more----This happens when i am normally with someone who spoils me and allow me to have the upper hand, once given the opportunity i will take advantage of it, hence leaving me to act very demanding and controlling.Leaving them to compromise more.
Me feeling like i love you more----this happens when i am with someone who is more demanding and controlling than i am, one who requires more attention and leave me compromising more and does not spoil me.
So really it has more to do with ones personality.
But as all ways communication is the key...
but have you tried to communicate with someone who is just so stubborn and not willing to give you a chance to speak whether they agree or dis-agree? ah ah dats a different can i worm i don't want to open right now...*wink*
I am currently in this situation. before i had our lil boy everything was ok. We were happy and well in love. But now he is just withdrawn and make a fuss about anything. he doesn't say i love you anymore or gives a spontaneous kiss like he used to.
Sometimes i wonder if he realizes that i am around when he is at home. He plays with his son and then he is on the fone or on the road.
I don't know what to do. Communication is good but only when two parties are willing to communicate.
Communication is definately key for real. Lots of the time, our individual issues, even with self may lead us to bring these over in our relationships and thus question our partner's love. Besides, had we all spent more time SHOWING our partners that we love him/her then many of the questions wouldn't have arisen.
I am responding to May,
Girl i can definitely relate the situation ,it may not be identical but i have found my self feeling ignored an unappreciated before that that shit hurts.
I am going to ask you to try something for me.
1. stop trying to get his attention
2. do not let him see you sad (smile)
3. if he tries to talk to you don't respond with any attitude, answer by saying, yes dear, or sure thing babes, be nice to him extra nice to him.
4.keep yourself busy, try a find a friend to talk to on the phone or even a friend to come by a keep your company.
5.do no talk to him if he doesn't want to talk and when he is ready to talk to him normal.
What i am asking you to do is something that i have done and it has worked.Men sometimes have issue they don't want to talk about with their spouse and find it easy to just ignore us, because they expect us to understand.if you love him you want him to be happy so if he is happy ignoring let him cause if he loves you and start seeing that you don't need him to be happy he then will try to make an attempt to talk to you.
Fix up yourself and look good , watch your favorite movie,laugh cry or scream if you wish.
He just needs sometime, give it to him.
I know its hard, when your are seeking Love and Affection from someone who seems pretty cold and heartless, but if its yours and the love is real, you will get it back.
Those are some really good points Jamaican Mommy. It's really hard to read our spouse's minds so all we need to do is just be ourselves and let ourselves be happy. Sounds selfish but after they realize we giving them the space they need they usually feel guilty and start look into themselve.
Men..boy oboy
I've been in this situation at some point and it feels very bad but like its been said, communication is key.Sometimes the unequal love is so clear, it shouldn't be like that.
I feel bonding refers to the emotional covenant that links a man and woman together for life and makes them intensely valuable to one another.I have had this wonderful dating experience which might be quite surprising for many people who read this.
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