Bringing Back the Oomph in the BedRoom After Childbirth

Oomph? Yep, we mean Sex...and don't we all need a little of that to soothe our minds, soul and body after our little bundle of joy starts to take over our world? But how soon should we start to 'tangle' after such intimate, life changing event? Or how do we balance sex and child at the same time.. hmmm.. this could be tricky but if you want to keep that flame alive and hold on to your man then u better be ready to get ready.

As a mom I can attest to this being a difficult task with a crying, extremely demanding little bundle of joy and the after effects that childbirth physically and psychologically has on your life.

When to have start having sex after baby in partially up to you and your body but you may also want to include your practitioner. Growing up I was told to give your body at least 3 months to heal properly but after having my child I realized that it all depends on your body and every body and childbirth is different.

To get to the chase. If you are not exactly ready, your partner may not share the same sentiments after all he's a "guy"lol. So please do not neglect your partner's need for some sexual gratification.

There are so many things you could do to keep ignite the aflame.

• Cuddle with him: There is absolutely nothing wrong with just lying in bed together, cuddling,hugging, kissing and sharing baby stories, who knows this may just end up in something further to both your liking. 

• Do have Foreplay: I know time is hard to find sometimes but intercourse can be painful too especially for mother's who have had a cesarean or some may have been torn or slit...after all we are talking about the same parties involved in bringing forth your beautiful baby so yes guys, ease off a lil or take your time.

• Get Naughty: There is nothing wrong with a little naughtiness in your love life. As a matter of fact it is very important in your relationship. It helps to bring a little oomph to your love life.Strip tease him, sext him when he is at work, and as Heidi Murkoff says in 'What To Expect When You're Expecting' "' Try oral sex more often" it is less painful and very pleasurable.

• Do Quickies! With crazy days of exhaustion, crying fits, late night feedings, quickies may feel like heaven sometimes. It worked for Kimberly Ford, author of Hump: True Tales of Sex After Kids, who claims that even brief intimate episodes release frustration, leave her feeling closer to her husband, and keep the flame alive for future rolls in the hay. Surely this will not be forever, but for the first couple of months it will definitely work. 

• Kegel Exercise is also very important even after childbirth as stretched perineal muscles will likely cause intercourse and orgasm to be less pleasurable. 

Don't be surprised if you suddenly start noticing a lack of vaginal lubrication after giving birth. Reduced estrogen levels after pregnancy sometimes result in vaginal dryness, which can last up to 6 months. Surely this may cause some discomfort during sex. So in these cases you may want to try different vaginal lubricants or as I mentioned before, massage or oral sex is an alternative until you are more desirous. 

There are so many other simple things you can do but that may take me another post. In the meantime. Communicate with your partner, be honest with your feelings and continue to show your love and appreciation of each other.

Talk to you all soon.. and please feel free to share your tips on bringing back the Oomph in thr Bedroom after Childbirth.


Cheers!


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